➢I don't know why guys ask women how to be more attractive. I think at this point we've come to at least some level of understanding that attraction is gut-level. It's instinctive. You can't explain your instincts; all you know is whether or not you feel it.
Asking a woman the traits of a good man will usually lead nowhere. just as asking a man to define a good woman usually doesn't lead anywhere. BTW, "good sex and good sammiches" is a funny reply, but that's about as helpful as when girls say "he has to make me laugh."
There's a reason why the traits of masculinity has always been passed down from one male to another, from father to son. Somewhere in the past few generations, the link between father and son has largely been severed. Blame it on divorce rates, blame it on 40 hour work weeks, blame it on the school system if you like - but the rift is there, and adult men are discovering that masculinity doesn't magically appear at puberty; it must be learned - and many adult men are discovering that they don't have a single clue where to learn it from.
For over a decade, different men have taken up that single goal of relearning natural masculinity. First they started as pickup artists, then transitioned to 'dating gurus,' then 'self-improvement.' There's been a lot of BS, and in that mound of BS, there have been diamonds. Here's what I've learned:
➢What is a good man? A good man is a man who is a leader in his relationships. In a woman's eyes, a good man is one who is indisputably masculine and confident, inspires confidence, and has integrity.
Read those last four items and memorize them. Burn them into your brain, because they're important.
Masculinity ignites femininity. Confidence allows him to get what he needs and wants. Inspiring confidence makes him a leader and builds up the people in his life. Integrity makes him a man that people (and especially women) trust.
Build up these four qualities. Learn the nuances of who you and, and build yourself as a person. Gain introspection, humility, strength of will, courage, and the host of other characteristics that changes a simple boy into a man of quality. Then watch as women open up to you freely, knowing that they are safe in your presence.
You see, women have trouble explaining the traits of a good man - but they DO know how a good man makes them feel.
A good man makes them feel Safe. Feminine. Sexy. Special. When he turns his eyes on her she feels her heart warm and flutter at the same time; she feels all at once flustered and yet sensual to every curve of her body. She feels appreciated and spicy and soft and respected, and ready - all at once.
What's more important; she loves feeling like this. Most guys don't inspire these feelings. Most girls have to put up emotional walls and take on a masculine role in order to navigate life. They feel this lack of masculinity in the men around them, and for many women it's incredibly frustrating. Whenever you see the complaints from women about how "there aren't any good men these days," and "every guy is a fuckboi," this is inevitably what they're referring to. They have to put up emotional walls to survive, and they hate it. In the presence of a good man these walls aren't needed, and they come tumbling down as the woman radiates in her feminine beauty, happy be flower, surrendering to his arms. You ever notice that quirk where a girl gets in a great relationship with a great guy, and suddenly her attitude and personality makes a sudden shift to the absurdly happy positive? This is why - and notice how the girl's friends all respond too: with happiness and jealousy, and asking if her man has any brothers.
Four traits to manhood. Learn them - and you'll suddenly find women reacting to you in a completely different way.
Kudos to Scott McKay. This isn't my material, this is his. He is worth your time. http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/
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