Four Traits of Manhood

➢I don't know why guys ask women how to be more attractive. I think at this point we've come to at least some level of understanding that attraction is gut-level. It's instinctive. You can't explain your instincts; all you know is whether or not you feel it.

Asking a woman the traits of a good man will usually lead nowhere. just as asking a man to define a good woman usually doesn't lead anywhere. BTW, "good sex and good sammiches" is a funny reply, but that's about as helpful as when girls say "he has to make me laugh."

There's a reason why the traits of masculinity has always been passed down from one male to another, from father to son. Somewhere in the past few generations, the link between father and son has largely been severed. Blame it on divorce rates, blame it on 40 hour work weeks, blame it on the school system if you like - but the rift is there, and adult men are discovering that masculinity doesn't magically appear at puberty; it must be learned - and many adult men are discovering that they don't have a single clue where to learn it from.

For over a decade, different men have taken up that single goal of relearning natural masculinity. First they started as pickup artists, then transitioned to 'dating gurus,' then 'self-improvement.' There's been a lot of BS, and in that mound of BS, there have been diamonds. Here's what I've learned:

➢What is a good man? A good man is a man who is a leader in his relationships. In a woman's eyes, a good man is one who is indisputably masculine and confident, inspires confidence, and has integrity.

Read those last four items and memorize them. Burn them into your brain, because they're important.

Masculinity ignites femininity. Confidence allows him to get what he needs and wants. Inspiring confidence makes him a leader and builds up the people in his life. Integrity makes him a man that people (and especially women) trust.

Build up these four qualities. Learn the nuances of who you and, and build yourself as a person. Gain introspection, humility, strength of will, courage, and the host of other characteristics that changes a simple boy into a man of quality. Then watch as women open up to you freely, knowing that they are safe in your presence.

You see, women have trouble explaining the traits of a good man - but they DO know how a good man makes them feel.

A good man makes them feel Safe. Feminine. Sexy. Special. When he turns his eyes on her she feels her heart warm and flutter at the same time; she feels all at once flustered and yet sensual to every curve of her body. She feels appreciated and spicy and soft and respected, and ready - all at once.

What's more important; she loves feeling like this. Most guys don't inspire these feelings. Most girls have to put up emotional walls and take on a masculine role in order to navigate life. They feel this lack of masculinity in the men around them, and for many women it's incredibly frustrating. Whenever you see the complaints from women about how "there aren't any good men these days," and "every guy is a fuckboi," this is inevitably what they're referring to. They have to put up emotional walls to survive, and they hate it. In the presence of a good man these walls aren't needed, and they come tumbling down as the woman radiates in her feminine beauty, happy be flower, surrendering to his arms. You ever notice that quirk where a girl gets in a great relationship with a great guy, and suddenly her attitude and personality makes a sudden shift to the absurdly happy positive? This is why - and notice how the girl's friends all respond too: with happiness and jealousy, and asking if her man has any brothers.

Four traits to manhood. Learn them - and you'll suddenly find women reacting to you in a completely different way.

Kudos to Scott McKay. This isn't my material, this is his. He is worth your time. http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/

Smash the Patriarchy While Wearing High Heels Why Don't You...

➢Maybe someone can explain this to me, because I think this is getting a bit stupid.

I now have seen - both in my personal life, and in various online mediums - multiple transwomen, of various political and social backgrounds. Yet, they all seem to carry two similarities.

1) They make attempts to look feminine and beautiful 

2) The vast majority of them self-identify as feminists (note: "vast majority" is from a sample size of about twenty, so bear that in mind).

So on the one hand, radical feminists (amongst whom these transwomen tend to self-identify) are arguing that gender is a social construct made to privilege males in society...

...and yet every transwoman I've met or seen without exception has made serious efforts, ranging from makeup to surgical modification, to appear classically beautiful as per societal standards of feminine beauty.

Now, this seems a bit confusing to me, because generally you'd think people who claim to have "seen the matrix" of social constructs would generally defy them whenever their own personal preferences differ from the mainstream.

And yet, there's this massive trend, which smells to the high heavens of some form of hypocrisy.

I don't get it - why claim that gender is totally a gender construct, and then intentionally try to match that construct while claiming that you want to tear it down or otherwise free people from being obligated to follow it? You might as well extol the virtues of veganism and condemn the meat industry while chowing down on a Big Mac.

This leads me to a few conclusions. I'm not sure which is correct, but I'm guessing the truth lies somewhere in between.

1) Transwomen aren't actually attracted so much to being a woman, so much as being in a feminine role. Alternatively... 

2) Transwomen intuitively understand that femininity isn't just a "social construct," and that there are deep biological (and thus psychological) roots connecting femininity to being sexually female. Given this... 

3) Radical feminists are blatantly lying to both themselves and others when they claim that gender roles are mere social constructs. Just how self-aware they are of this lie is a different question altogether.

But hey, don't take my word on it. If you consider yourself a feminist, and have a male friend who's in the middle of transition, and you see them slipping into following those patriarchal definitions of feminine beauty, be sure to stop them and tell them that they don't need to wear makeup in order to feel feminine or feel like a woman.

I dare you. Unless of course you have a good explanation for why virtually every single transwoman claiming to be a feminist also happens to spend an extraordinary amount of effort attempting to fit the "patriarchal" definition of feminine beauty. I'm more than willing to hear an alternate explanation.