Step 1: Take your hand off your dick, and zip up your pants. This may seem counterintuitive, since sex usually requires your hardness to be rocking the midnight breeze, but bear with me here.
Step 2: Close your porn browser tabs. Drag your porn folder to the trash bin. This is slightly less counterintutive, since most girls would rather fuck a dude rather than sit with him and watch a different dude fuck a girl that isn't her.
Step 3: Go outside and meet women. Fucking duh.
Before the idiots go off about how "beneficial" porn is, let's address some points here, which should be obvious to everyone who isn't dead set on justifying their favorite idiocy:
Porn doesn't help you figure out what you like sexually. Any person who's said this to you is a damn liar.
Yes, it's true that orgasms are medically linked to increased prostate health, yadda yadda. It's also true that sex with real vaginas is infinitely better than sex with five fingers and a bottle of moisturizer.
But more than this, you've gotta realize... your masturbation habits are fucking up your ability to relate to women and your ability to fuck them senseless.
Sad, but true. This isn't voodoo shit, this is basic psychology. Remember one simple fact:
When it comes to sex, the mind is the enemy.
You know this to be true. The best moments, the best conversations, and frankly the best sex... what are they conspicuously lacking?
Overthinking
It is experientially true that when we have our best moments, the really good ones, our heads are usually completely absent of thought. The little monkey in our head has finally shut up and let us enjoy the moment, for once (assuming you've got such little control of the devil).
So how does this relate to porn? Imagine what your normal porn activity consists of. You spend the first portion finding a video, aka using your cognitive thought process. You probably quit a few videos, because they feel too fake and ridiculous. Depending on how you do porn, the porn tab might be paused for a bit to read facebook, watch a youtube video, search for even more porn...
Remember all those times you tried to get sexual but it got incredibly awkward because you kept getting trapped in your head and got really self conscious and kept making stupid mistakes? Well it's not surprising...
You've been teaching your body to associate sexual turn-on with higher end cognitive function. Those idiotic baboons in your head? You're literally training them to pop up in a full frontal assault with sexual encounters, every time you do stupid shit like multitask with porn. Good job, moron.
Not to mention, if you're a man, then sex usually involves you being in the dominant position, and taking care of yourself and the woman you're with. She wants to surrender to you, but she's only gonna do it if she feels safe and attended to in your presence. Guess what, bud? When you jerk it off, you're only paying attention to your cock.
Not only that, but you're probably not feeling sexy through your whole body when you play the nightly fiddle. After all, who would? But guess what, great sex means being aware of your whole body, and that of the person you're with. Yet another way in which porn sets you up to fail.
Keep in mind, if you're like most single guys... then the amount that you masturbate FAR outweighs the amount that you're spending inside a woman.
Hell, I'm not even covering the benefits that are testified to by guys who get away from porn completely.
But you know how I know you know what I'm saying is true?
Because you, like every other guy in the world, pretty much hates the majority of porn, and they hate it for the same reason. And I don't even have to tell you what that reason is - you already know.
And you wouldn't have to hate the vast majority of porn if it didn't affect you.
~BTW, girls who read romance novels, especially erotic novels: you're just as guilty. And if you loved 50 Shades of Grey, congrats on being a hardcore femme porn user.
