To Touch Her Flesh

➢This is perfect. And awesome. Copied from here. I had to put this on the blog, not only to share, but as a reminder for myself.

FOR THE MEN: on what your touch does for women's bodies 

Women don't know what their bodies feel like until you touch them. All of them. Their hair, their feet, the back of the knees, that little spot on the back of the neck, behind the ears, between the toes, that nook where her thigh bones meet her pelvis, in between her butt cheeks.... EVERYWHERE. Some places are so well hidden we've never felt ourselves there. 

We often don't know we have bodies until we are touched all over the place and touched A LOT. 

This is why some women LOVE to be touched and will lean in like a pretty kitty, and others will be shy about being touched or not want it at all. Not everyone is ready for the body experience, not everyone is ready to let go of pain and shame. 

What women really NEED to relax into their sensual bodies is a space where they are not expected to give back or feel threatened by a fear of loss or abandonment. They need TIME. They need to move through all their own trust and surrender thresholds. This can challenge you if you feel inadequate of have a lot of sexual shame yourself, and that's good, because all her trust thresholds will help you dissolve your own discomforts and fears. 

Great sex, great intimacy, great pleasure requires time. No rushing. No pushing. She needs time to sink into her body and relax into you and the experience. 

Being touched and touching is an art form in and of itself. Giving and receiving energy. Your hands communicate SO much from the pressure you exert, the speed at which you move, the attention you put into it. She can feel in an instant how confident you are about your body and hers, if you are afraid to hurt her too much so you're holding back your sexuality, if you're not really giving to her unconditionally but you just want something, if you are trying to manipulate....

She can feel it in SECONDS whether she's aware of it or not. And her body will respond or recoil. SECONDS. 

Your hands communicate everything. More than your words. She can feel how present or not present you are just by how you touch her. 

No you can't save a woman or activate her inner goddess for the sake of your own spiritualized ego. If you're doing that then get a grip and take care of your own shit before you go around trying to open women to prove to yourself how much of a masculine man you are. Seriously, it's gross and manipulative so stop it and forgive yourself if that's what you've been doing. 

No you can't love a woman more than she loves herself. Well, I guess you can, but you'll be frustrated every-time. This is not a thing where you can touch her enough for her to realize how amazing she is.

This is what intention is. Precision. Purpose. And you can practice honing your attention in your own touch of your woman. 

If you're into creating harmony and peace in partnerships, then this is a key role you will play in her life. It's not your job, but it's a gift you give in service because when you see the exponential results of your investment here, you'll understand what I'm talking about.